Every single day you are faced with this message, over and over, in a million different ways; you need to change/ fix/ improve your body. It is a problem that needs to be "dealt with." The fitter/ thinner you appear, the worthier you are. This [...]
1. You bounce back from embarrassment/ shame/ humiliation faster If you want to live overseas or in a different country, especially if that country speaks a different language, you have to be prepared to look stupid hundreds- nay, thousands- nay. millions- NAY. BILLIONS- of times. [...]
El Salvador has two seasons: wet and dry. We have been experiencing the dry season for what feels like a lifetime at this point. Every day is sun. The piercing kind of sun where if you walk along a road at midday, it feels like [...]
"Paddle, girl, dale!" My friend is in a paddle battle with two other men. She's on the inside, rightfully her wave, but you can tell the dudes don't think she's going to make it. She digs her arms in and paddles with all she's got. [...]
When it comes to online sex advice, I read a lot of this: You should map your genitals like you're a cartographer discovering a coastline for the first time. You should mark every pleasure point with a fat red 'X' and know how to direct [...]
Photo Lex Weinstein As the plane started to descend I saw my home city appear below me. After almost a year of living on the other side of the world, Adelaide looked like a toy town, like something I could cup in the palm of [...]
I knew I was going to work online at 22 when I did my first internship at Australia’s largest independent women’s media group based in Sydney. Everyone was competing to be the first to arrive at the office and the last to leave at night [...]
I refuse to hate Instagram. Do I hate how it can give people chronic fear of missing out, shortens our attention spans, fries our eyeballs and makes people neurotic that everyone is doing life better than us? Yes. And. Instagram has been the catalyst for [...]
“And then,” she said to me. “She told me she didn’t need a friend like me anymore, and unfriended me on Facebook. I was sitting in the airport at the time. It made me cry” I’ve been hearing a lot of these stories recently. Friendships [...]
Surfing: the sport of freedom? Surfing. It's the sport of freedom, they'll say. I've said it myself a million times. In the sea, sitting astride my surfboard I am free, unburdened, open, raw. "How strange it was to see men do something beautiful," Tim Winton [...]
“Home is not the place where you happen to be born. It’s the place where you become yourself.” -Pico Iver El Salvador has been my accidental home for over two-and-a-half years. I came to explore her for two weeks and before I knew it, the [...]
“We have lost too many days chasing the wrong things… today is the day to make things right. Today everything can be yours.” -unknown If someones profile is going to piss you off, don’t look at it. Just don’t. Mute or unfollow every profile that [...]
"You only are free when you realize you belong no place — you belong every place — no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great..." -MAYA ANGELOU If your year was a book, what kind of genre would it be? She asked. It would be [...]
You’ve just received the career opportunity of a lifetime. A new job, or an invitation into a new project, a new client, a new business opportunity, or a promotion. The kind of thing you’ve dreamed about for years. Like, beyond-the-realms-of-wildest-dreams cool. The kind of opportunity [...]
The sex-positive movement began in the 3rd wave feminism, and the 4th wave boasts a new brand of digitally driven sex-positivity. With things like the slut walk and sex-positive resources on social media instigating social change, people are realizing that a woman's worth has sweet [...]
"I hurtle on too long through the pounding submarine mist. End over end in my caul of bubbles until the turbulence is gone and I'm hanging limp in a faint green light while all heat ebbs from my chest and life begins to leach out [...]
[*] artstigator /artsˈtɪɡeɪtor/ noun: street art aficionado who artstigates, or tirelessly covers the streets of a city on the quest to document the emerging street art scene. Slightly addicted. Meet art curator Alexandra Sol. She is the creator of Journey of an Artstigator, a group of artstigators on [...]
This post was originally published in 2016. Some parts have been edited from the original for current day relevance. This article was written about in 2016 in Psychology Today by the late American game designer, author, lecturer and fun theorist Bernie De Koven, a pioneer [...]
A love letter to my belly... Dude. I love you so, so much. I love how you remind me of my sister and my mother and my mothers mother, all possessing the same swell of flesh perched on the edge of our waistbands. And can [...]
What do you weigh? For some women, this question makes their blood run cold. We live in a world that that treats every belly roll, every cellulite dimple, every thick pair of thighs like a crime. An outrage. A joke. Some sort of personal failure [...]
“I have a question for you.” A friend asked me the other day. That question never fails to jolt me into a state of half-terror / half excitement. It’s a question that gets the blood going and the heart racing, a game that has a [...]
"Why are we like this?” I found myself saying to my friend over the phone the other day, the guilt and embarrassment hot in my throat. I was in my room, alone, with the doors shut, while conversation buzzed outside. I had been around people [...]
“do not choose the lesser life. do you hear me. do you hear me. choose the life that is. yours. the life that is seducing your lungs. that is dripping down your chin.” -Nayyirah Waheed, Nejma Should I stay or should I go. I think [...]
“You do not know what you are missing by your microscopic examination of sexual activity to the exclusion of aspects which are fuel that ignites it. Intellectual, imaginative, romantic, emotional. This is what gives sex its surprising textures, its subtle transformations, its aphrodisiac elements. You [...]
I’m in Santa Fe, New Mexico. I need to get back to Albuquerque before nightfall, because I’ve rented out a little tiny wagon home for the night, before my flight out of the States the next day. I don’t know why I chose the tiny [...]
feature image: @magsymooo Our brain is usually talking to itself all day, at all times. So often we assume the self-talk is automatic and innate. But when was the last time you held an ear up to the voices and asked yourself what kind [...]
"You pay for things with hours of your life." A few years ago someone spoke these words to me. It has haunted me for life. Just like that, I was never the same again. Every time I tried to order a new dress online for [...]
Hey human! As adults, it can be easy to get too deep into our own heads, and our own seriousness. With a saturation of ‘life coaching’ and ‘wellness’ people telling us what we should and should not be doing to be ‘spiritual’, journal like this, [...]
Lush beach settings, impossibly blue-green waters and magical all-girl surf sessions in exotic surf locations all over the world. Meet Cait Miers, the woman behind the lense (and screen) of @caitmiersphotography. At 24, she has released a book, a swimwear line, has a 100,000+ strong [...]
What is creativity to you? Creativity is complicated. For me, it's a dance. The kind of white-lady dance where you’re not quite sure what you’re doing so you throw a whole bunch of moves together, slap on a smile and hope for the best, but [...]
