As things simultaneously wind down and speed up for the holiday season, December is a great season to sit down and check in with ourselves. These journalling exercises are designed to help you figure out who you are now, what you want (and don’t want anymore) and where you’re headed in 2020. So get your coffee, tea or cerveza, a notebook and take your time answering any of the following questions that call to you.
1. What are the three things in your life you most use to define yourself? For example, it could be that you have a great job, that you are a traveller, that you are a family person, that you are a mother, a wife, a student, a writer… etc.
2. How do each of these things make you feel about yourself?
(For example, if ‘I have a great job’ is one of your answers, you could say it makes you feel creative, productive, useful. Or if your relationship or marriage was a big definer, you could say it makes you feel loved. Wanted. Grounded)
Makes me feel…
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3. How do you think you would feel about yourself if you couldn’t define yourself by these things? Lost? Free? Directionless?
4. When do you feel most like yourself, like ‘this is me.’? Where are you? What are you wearing? What are you doing? What is the weather like? Who are you with, or are you alone?
5. Who did you spend the most time with this year? Do you feel like they are a good representation of who you are? How do you feel around them?
6. What are three things you accomplished in the past year that you’re really proud of?
7. What is one goal you intended to accomplish this year, but didn’t?
8. How do you feel about this? Is it still a goal of yours? Or do you feel like you want to let it go?
9. Where do you feel like you’re most blocked in your life right now? What hasn’t moved forward in a while, feels stagnant, or heavy?
10. What is the hardest thing you went through this year? How do you feel like you’ve moved through it? Do you feel like you’ve moved through it?
11. What did you learn about yourself through this experience?
12. If there would be no negative consequences, what is one thing you would let go of and stop doing right now?
13. what is one opinion you had that you changed this year? What was it? What happened that made you change it?
14. What is one idea that you have seen a lot of people repeating around you this year that you don’t agree with?
15. Do you feel like you are similar or different from the people around you? How?
16. What areas in your life do you feel like you are hardest on yourself about, and put a lot of pressure on yourself to be ‘perfect.; Is it in your social life, your health and fitness, your romantic life, your career life, your family life?
17. What ingrained ideas do you still have about ‘the perfect life’ or being ‘the perfect woman?’ Where in your life did you pick up these ideas? Family? Society? Social media?
18. Do you truly believe being ‘perfect’ at anything is an attainable goal?
19. What if you let that go now?
20. Where in your life do you feel like you’re living by someone else’s rules or standards? Who gave you these rules?
21. How much of your time each day is dedicated to doing something you love?
22. What would you like to have more of into your day? How could you make that happen?
23. What would you like to have less of in your day? How could you make that happen?
24. What is something you started believing in this year, that you didn’t believe in before? What happened? What changed?
25. What is your highest vision for yourself next year? This isn’t to ask you to dream up some unattainable perfect version of you or your life. But what do you want to be working on, either internally or external projects? How do you want to feel? What kind of people would you like to be around? What standards would you like to have for your relationships?At the end of 2020, how do you want to finish this: ‘the year 2020 for me was …..’