Time is money, honey.

I felt tormented about our argument of yesterday, how our ideologies were bumping heads.

I felt conflicted because my deepest core beliefs came in objection to you, and the fact that I love you and value you in the deepest of my core, too.

Do you remember when I asked you in the car, somewhere between Montreal and Quebec on a summer night, what you were willing to invest a lot of money for? You said something about machines and game consoles. Not only because they are beautiful, but mainly for the pleasure they bring you, the moments they allow you to share with your homies. Big boys toys!

To the same question, I answered: Time. That having flexibility of schedule, and being rich of quality time, free time, time to practice the activities that I love on a daily basis is what I value the most.

Surfing, yogiing, training, snowboarding, skating, hiking, climbing, moving – alone or with friends, is what makes me feel alive.

My deepest core desire is to put these in the center of my daily life.

Meaning, that my bigger plan, or the driving force of my decisions is: how can organize my work and finances in a way that I can have as much time as possible to play without feeling like I should be “doing more”?

We cannot buy time. Like Mylène said: “To be rich of time, you need to be poor of other things.”

It is clear to me that I am not willing to comprise my time and my flexibility of schedule to have a huge career. I’d rather have less money but more free time.

Why? Because I’ve simply found that I don’t get a lot of satisfaction from owning valuables.

I don’t find more enjoyment in an exotic car than a functional ‘sexy enough’ one.

I don’t find more enjoyment in expensive clothes more than the ones I find at H&M.

I don’t desire to travel first class for four times the regular ticket price.

I don’t particularly enjoy drinking 240$ champagne over 25$ bubbly wine.

To wake up excited about the day ahead of me is what it means for me to be successful. And that can be accomplished with or without money. The amount of $ necessary to live “your best life” varies from one human to another.

Don’t get me wrong, I do appreciate a certain level of comfort! I don’t want to live poorly. I don’t want live a restrictive life, where money is a stress factor. I also desire a life of purpose, I want to create something bigger than myself and leave a mark in this world.

But it is a priority for me to create a life and a career that allow me to go snowboard on a Tuesday and surf on a Thursday if the conditions are good or there is an invitation. This is the life I’ve consciously designed for myself, and I fully intend to keep walking this path, now that we are together.

I know, this is not what “normal” people do. This is not how a huge percentage of the society live.

But I honestly don’t care about their ways. I want to live life on my own terms. It might be conflicting for some. It might be seen as abnormal..

But I honestly couldn’t care less what other people’s think. I rarely think of ‘them’.

Plus, I don’t feel alone. I’m also surrounded by people that live on their own terms. People that work, people that don’t work. People that are lost, and some that have found themselves too, in this unconventional way of living.

As far as I know, I don’t know how long we have on this earth, honey. It might all be over tomorrow, or it might be over only in a 100 years. And as much as you inspire me to think long-term and make me excited about building a future together, what I know is that there isn’t even a promise of tomorrow…

I understand your mindset: work hard now, grow the business, and hopefully reach financial freedom in the mid-term run. And then, eventually, slow it down while money is generated by itself and enjoy more “free time”.

But when will it ever be “enough”? Bigger projects comes with bigger responsibilities. What if you are never able to pull the plug, because, well, there will always more to be accomplished?

And what if it is all over tomorrow? I hope you’ll have enjoyed the process. The journey itself. I really hope.

But understand that for me, schedule is lethal. I’ve tried and died once or twice from it, already.

This is probably why I feel so much at home living in Central America, in a place that hardly functions on a schedule. I love not knowing what tomorrow will bring!

You say this is ‘reality’. This is what adults do.

This is where I get triggered.

This exactly the type of uni-directional mindset I’ve been trying to walk away from, to erase from my hard-drive. I’ve been spending the last 10 years travelling the world, exploring various ways for one to free their mind. Diving deep within myself, where nobody planted the seed of a belief yet, to undercover who I was before the world had told me what it meant to be ‘realistic’.

I think most of modern-day society has completely lost the plot. Its bullshit, these ideas they are bombing at us, of all the SHOULD’S. Work work work. Do more. Be more. Excel in everything. Self-doubt and illness only feed the system itself. It’s a trap.

What if it doesn’t flow? I believe that is exactly why people develop disease. Anxiety. Cancer. Their breath is short, caught in their upper chest. Their whole body is numbed and tensed 24/7. Stressed. Their mind is tangled. Busy. Always busy. Pressured by a society that is spinning faster and faster.

What would happen if one would jump off the carousel?…

So many people standing on the edge. Looking at a way to do things differently. There must be another way... their little voice tells them. They feel it in their belly, too. But they don’t know where to start. They don’t know what awaits, if they say “fuck it” and jump off the spinning wheel. Holding on to the ladder they’ve been climbing for years, that seems to be stretching all the way to the sky; they look around for an alternative, a liana to come their way. No one told them yet they were free to grow their own tree.

That so-called “reality” doesn’t have a pre-fab shape.

It is yours to build. And that’s the most beautiful thing about life; you can do whatever you want!!! But that demands getting off ya chair, your home, your town and go out seeking, tasting, trying, to define what truly makes you vibe. It demands sitting still, in silence. Quieting your mind. Getting to hear the music of your own life.

So please don’t tell me to be a ~~realistic adult~~.

I honestly don’t even know what this means…

If there is one thing about me it is this; I’ll turn left anywhere people would intuitively turn right.

I don’t want to conform, I don’t want to fit in, I don’t want to blend.

I don’t want to criticize your ways, or the ways of the whole corporate world. I think that what you are currently building as a business, as a lifestyle, is great and admirable. I’m always thirsty to learn from you.

I firmly believe you will reach your goals, you will reach financial freedom and have all the money you need to buy all things on your Christmas list. Travel a few weeks a year. And work remotely during the harsh Winter. And then, perhaps, we will be free to go snowboard on a Tuesday. I don’t doubt you and I’m so fucking proud of you. I promise to always support you.

But I need you to soften around my point of view, too. I ask you to sit with these thoughts.

Not one vision is supreme. One needs to have the courage to find what floats his own boat.

And ultimately this my work, my mission, my big career:

I want to help others see, feel, experience, that there isn’t a right way to do adulthood.

Keep me safe, honey.

I’ll keep you wild xo

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